Ladies help me out.......

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Permalink Reply by DebbieK on January 26, 2012 at 11:50pm

Hostess Rise' said:

Hi Mel

 

May I ask who was the person that said it would have been nice to have this info on your profile?

Some people cannot handle illness while others have no trouble with it. Don't let one bad apple spoil the whole bunch if you know what I mean.  Love conquers all and when you find the right person they will embrace you for all the good and that includes illness too.

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Permalink Reply by DebbieK on January 26, 2012 at 11:59pm

DebbieK said:

I totally agree with Rise. Some people can handle illness and others have no problem with it. I have a friend her husband left her because he just can't handle her illness. She has been waiting three years for a transplant and has broken both her hips and has Mycobacterium infection. My mom could not take it anymore and abandoned me in my second  month of recovery after my transplant.    
my ex boyfriend wanted me bqck my old frends are slowly coming back into my life.. We just  have to get back out there  and make some new friends and  hopefully we will meet someone that  we have chemistry with. 

Hostess Rise' said:

Hi Mel

 

May I ask who was the person that said it would have been nice to have this info on your profile?

Some people cannot handle illness while others have no trouble with it. Don't let one bad apple spoil the whole bunch if you know what I mean.  Love conquers all and when you find the right person they will embrace you for all the good and that includes illness too.

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Permalink Reply by Hostess Rise' on January 28, 2012 at 2:19pm

Some people tell one another right away about all of their personal issues while others get to know one another and decide if they feel comfortable sharing.

 

Do you think you are being dishonest if you do not share info about your transplant in your profile? Just curious...

 

I met my husband through an online phone dating service.  I actually told him about CF/Tx after a few conversations. 

 

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Permalink Reply by DebbieK on January 28, 2012 at 3:20pm

I agree with you Rise' on not putting it in your ad. I think I would wait till after the first date to see if there is any chemistry in the first place. 

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Permalink Reply by Mel on January 28, 2012 at 6:09pm

  Yea, I hear yea and understand...but I'm still stuck on this being honest thing......I'm still stuck in a damn if I do and damn if I don't

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Permalink Reply by Hostess Rise' on January 28, 2012 at 6:42pm

To me, sharing health details is like sharing the amount of money in your bank account.

What is the difference between the two?

 

 If you are not rich enough some people are not interested. The same with health.  Too bad I was not able to think like I do today when I was young and naive.

 

Everyone is entitled to their own opinion.

 

If you were extremely wealthy would you place this info in your ad? 

 

Enjoy your dating years.  Have fun!

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Permalink Reply by sssteph on February 7, 2012 at 1:25pm

Hi Mel,

Just a suggestion about where to meet a nice lady.  Meetup.com.  I think it is available everywhere.  It is a site to find people who share the same interests, not necessarily a dating site, but if you like hiking they have events in your area to do activities you like.  i joined a harley-davidson group in my area and have meet a bunch of really great people who I now consider more like family than just acquaintances!  Some I would even date if I weren't in a realtionship. 

It is horrible how shallow people can be.  We all have faults, its just that some (maybe even many) cant see past them, only their own!  There is a great woman out there who is waiting for someone like you in here life, no matter what you have been through or may still go through in the future.

I was so fortunate that I meet someone who, up front, we discussed my up coming (at the time) transplant, while he had 2 years prior been in a very bad motorcycle accident.  we discussed how facing death can change how you look at life and make you realize what is really important and what isn't.  We found we had so much in common.  I told him that my live might be very different after tx and that if he wanted out, I was giving him an out.  But he did not take it!  He has been amazing through all of it and continues to be on a daily basis.  I call him the Pill Police because he is always there to remind me it's time to take my pills! 

That woman is out there for you!  I am sure of it!  You just might have to go through a whole bunch who arent worthy of you first!  Best of luck to you!

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Permalink Reply by Mel on February 7, 2012 at 1:46pm

       Hi Steph,

         Thank You for your words of encouragement and the info on the web site, I'll check it out. I see your also new to our group, so let me say Welcome. Myself, I'm pretty new also, I've been a member for a little under a year. It sounds like you have a very special man there, hopefully I'll find a woman like that one day. Again Thank You and welcome to the Group.......
 
sssteph said:

Hi Mel,

Just a suggestion about where to meet a nice lady.  Meetup.com.  I think it is available everywhere.  It is a site to find people who share the same interests, not necessarily a dating site, but if you like hiking they have events in your area to do activities you like.  i joined a harley-davidson group in my area and have meet a bunch of really great people who I now consider more like family than just acquaintances!  Some I would even date if I weren't in a realtionship. 

It is horrible how shallow people can be.  We all have faults, its just that some (maybe even many) cant see past them, only their own!  There is a great woman out there who is waiting for someone like you in here life, no matter what you have been through or may still go through in the future.

I was so fortunate that I meet someone who, up front, we discussed my up coming (at the time) transplant, while he had 2 years prior been in a very bad motorcycle accident.  we discussed how facing death can change how you look at life and make you realize what is really important and what isn't.  We found we had so much in common.  I told him that my live might be very different after tx and that if he wanted out, I was giving him an out.  But he did not take it!  He has been amazing through all of it and continues to be on a daily basis.  I call him the Pill Police because he is always there to remind me it's time to take my pills! 

That woman is out there for you!  I am sure of it!  You just might have to go through a whole bunch who arent worthy of you first!  Best of luck to you!

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